1. A very flamboyant and overstated drag queen, one who flaunts gender-bending and seeks attention doing so. Prob. from "flaming queen", which refers to a gay man who flaunts his homosexuality. 2. A member of the Community with a bad attitude toward self and others, appearing intentionally unpleasant.

a slang for calling someone a gay man

Someone who writes flame mail. Flamee should be obvious.

Someone who wrote a flame message.